The Leadership Shift Contractors Need to Build Better Teams Without Constant Conflict

Growing a contracting business requires more than being good at the work.

Many contractors start their businesses because they are excellent at their trade. They know how to build, repair, install, manage a jobsite, and solve problems in the field. But as the company grows, the role of the owner begins to change.

The skills that made someone a successful tradesperson aren’t necessarily the same skills required to lead a growing company.

Instead of doing the work themselves, contractors have to learn how to lead people, communicate effectively, give feedback, develop employees, handle difficult conversations, and make decisions that protect the health of the business.

That transition from craftsman to entrepreneur and executive can be challenging.

In a recent episode of Business Success Tips, Paul Sanneman, founder of Contractor Staffing Source, spoke with Emma Collyer of Aspire Executive Coaching about the leadership shift contractors need to make as they build their companies and teams.

Their conversation explored communication, coaching, employee accountability, company culture, leadership styles, and one of the hardest responsibilities for any business owner: knowing when an employee is no longer the right fit.

Your Team Is Your Business

One of the biggest mindset shifts a contractor can make is recognizing that the team is not separate from the business.

Your team is your business.

When an owner is doing everything personally, it can be easy to believe that the company’s success depends primarily on their own skills and effort. But as the company grows, that approach becomes difficult to sustain.

The owner eventually has to depend on other people to perform the work, communicate with customers, solve problems, and make decisions.

That means leadership becomes just as important as technical expertise.

Contractors who want to grow need to learn how to support, encourage, train, and develop their employees. When employees become more capable and productive, the business becomes more capable and productive as well.

This is why the transition from craftsman to business owner is more than a change in job title. It requires a change in identity and mindset.

The question changes from:

“How can I get this done?”

to:

“How can I build a team that can get this done?”

Stop Assuming You Know Why Something Went Wrong

Communication problems often begin when leaders make assumptions.

An employee makes a mistake, a project takes longer than expected, or something doesn’t happen the way the owner expected. The immediate reaction may be frustration:

“Why did you take so long?”

“You did this wrong.”

“Why didn’t you follow the process?”

But before deciding what happened, a leader can take a different approach: listen and ask questions.

Instead of assuming, try asking:

“Can you walk me through what happened?”

“What was the process you followed?”

“What caused the issue?”

“How did we end up here?”

These questions don’t mean the leader is ignoring the problem. They create an opportunity to understand it before deciding how to fix it.

The employee may have information the owner doesn’t have.

Perhaps the instructions weren’t clear. Maybe a material wasn’t available. Maybe there was a customer issue that changed the schedule. Or perhaps the employee genuinely made a mistake.

You can’t effectively address the real problem if you haven’t taken the time to understand what actually happened.

Listening first can also prevent a conversation from becoming defensive.

Replace the Attack-Defend Cycle With Coaching

When an employee feels attacked, their natural response may be to defend themselves.

The owner says, “You did this wrong.”

The employee explains why they did it.

The owner pushes back.

The employee defends themselves again.

Before long, the conversation isn’t about solving the problem anymore. It’s about proving who is right.

This is the attack-defend cycle.

Coaching provides another way forward.

Rather than immediately telling an employee what they should have done, a leader can ask questions that encourage the employee to think about the situation and participate in finding the solution.

That doesn’t mean a leader should never provide direction. There are certainly situations where a direct decision is necessary.

But when the goal is to develop an employee and improve future performance, simply giving orders may not be enough.

People are often more engaged when they have ownership of the solution.

Feedback Doesn’t Have to Become a Fight

Giving constructive feedback is an essential leadership skill, but the way feedback is delivered can determine how it is received.

Emma shared an example of working with a client who was struggling to communicate with an employee.

The original approach was essentially:

“You’re doing this wrong. You should be doing it this way.”

The communication strategy changed to one that recognized the employee’s effort first and then focused on how the work could be improved.

That may seem like a small difference, but small changes in communication can have significant effects.

Instead of making the employee feel that everything they did was wrong, the conversation becomes an opportunity to recognize what went well while addressing what needs to improve.

The goal isn’t to avoid accountability.

The goal is to make accountability productive.

When employees understand that feedback is intended to help them improve rather than simply criticize them, it becomes easier to build trust and have productive conversations.

Coaching Doesn’t Mean Avoiding Accountability

There is an important distinction between coaching an employee and allowing poor performance to continue.

Good leadership requires both support and accountability.

A leader can ask questions, listen, provide perspective, and help an employee develop a solution. But the employee still has to take responsibility for their performance.

At some point, the question becomes:

Is this person willing to improve?

If a business owner has tried different approaches, provided support, had difficult conversations, and given the employee opportunities to improve, but the employee still refuses to engage or take responsibility, the situation may require a different decision.

Coaching can help someone who wants to improve.

It cannot replace personal accountability.

When Is It Time to Let an Employee Go?

One of the most difficult decisions for a business owner is determining when an employee is no longer a good fit.

This decision can become especially difficult when the employee is a good person or has a family depending on their income.

Owners may think:

“I don’t want to hurt them.”

“They’ve been here for years.”

“Maybe things will get better.”

“They’re a nice person.”

Those feelings are understandable. But emotions can sometimes prevent owners from making decisions that are necessary for the business.

There is a difference between caring about an employee as a person and determining whether their employment is still right for the organization.

Before making a decision, leaders should consider whether they have genuinely exhausted reasonable avenues for improvement.

• Have expectations been clearly communicated?
• Has the employee received useful feedback?
• Have they been given an opportunity to improve?

Have different communication or coaching approaches been attempted?

If the answer is yes and the employee continues to refuse accountability or cannot align with the organization’s expectations, the owner may need to have a difficult conversation about whether the relationship should continue.

One Poor Performer Can Affect the Entire Team

An employee doesn’t have to be the worst person in the company to create significant problems.

One person who consistently underperforms, ignores expectations, or works against the company’s culture can affect everyone around them.

When poor performance isn’t addressed, high-performing employees notice.

They may begin to wonder:

“Why am I working so hard when this person isn’t held accountable?”

Over time, that frustration can affect morale, productivity, and retention.

This is one reason employee performance problems shouldn’t automatically be viewed as an issue between the owner and one employee.

The consequences can spread throughout the organization.

A business owner who refuses to address one person’s behavior may unintentionally create problems for the employees who are doing everything right.

Your Reputation as a Leader Matters

Employee problems can also affect the reputation of the business owner.

If employees, managers, or customers repeatedly see problems that aren’t being addressed, it can damage confidence in leadership.

Emma discussed working with a business owner who was receiving repeated complaints about members of the team.

The issue wasn’t simply that those individuals were creating problems. The owner’s decision to keep allowing the situation to continue was also damaging his personal credibility.

Eventually, the owner recognized the cost of maintaining the status quo and made the decision to release those employees.

Sometimes the cost of keeping the wrong person is greater than the cost of letting them go.

The longer a serious performance or culture problem continues, the more opportunity it has to affect the rest of the organization.

There Isn’t One Leadership Style That Works for Every Situation

Another important lesson from the conversation is that leadership isn’t one-size-fits-all.

Different situations and different teams may require different approaches.

Autocratic Leadership

Autocratic leadership is highly directive.

The leader makes the decisions and expects the team to follow them.

This can be useful when a quick decision is required or when circumstances demand clear direction. However, if used constantly, it can cause employees to feel that their ideas and perspectives don’t matter.

Servant Leadership

Servant leadership focuses heavily on supporting the team.

Instead of asking what employees can do for the leader, the leader looks for ways to remove obstacles and help employees succeed.

This approach can create a strong sense of support and collaboration within an organization.

Coaching Leadership

A coaching approach focuses on asking questions, encouraging employees to think, and helping them develop their own solutions.

Rather than immediately providing the answer, the leader helps the employee learn how to solve similar problems independently in the future.

Laissez-Faire Leadership

A laissez-faire approach is more hands-off.

This can work well when a leader has an experienced, established team that can operate independently. But a brand-new team may need more structure, direction, and support.

The important lesson isn’t that one leadership style is always better than another.

Effective leaders learn to adjust their approach based on the people, circumstances, and outcome they’re trying to achieve.

How Contractors Can Become Better Leaders

For contractors who are making the transition from tradesperson to business owner, leadership development doesn’t have to happen all at once.

Start with a few practical changes.

1. Decide What Kind of Leader You Want to Be

Think about the leaders you’ve worked with throughout your career.

What did you appreciate about them?

What behaviors frustrated you?

What made you trust a leader?

What made you want to work harder for someone?

Use those experiences to start defining the kind of leader you want to become.

2. Ask Before You Assume

When something goes wrong, don’t immediately decide that you know why.

Ask the employee to explain what happened.

Listen to the answer.

You may discover that the situation is different from what you originally assumed.

3. Provide Feedback About Improvement

Don’t use feedback simply to point out what someone did wrong.

Explain what needs to improve and help the employee understand how they can do better next time.

Recognition and accountability can exist in the same conversation.

4. Give Employees Ownership

Whenever appropriate, ask employees for their perspective and ideas.

Instead of always providing the answer, help them think through the problem.

The goal is not just to fix today’s problem. It’s to develop employees who can solve tomorrow’s problems without needing the owner to step in.

5. Address Problems Before They Spread

Don’t ignore an employee problem simply because the conversation is uncomfortable.

Unresolved performance and culture issues can affect the rest of the team.

The earlier a leader addresses a problem, the more options they may have for resolving it.

6. Protect the Culture You’re Building

Your company culture isn’t just what you say your values are.

It’s also what you allow to continue.

If employees consistently see poor performance, disrespectful behavior, or a lack of accountability being tolerated, they learn that those behaviors are acceptable.

Strong cultures require both support and standards.

The Leadership Shift Can Change the Business

Building a successful contracting company requires more than technical expertise.

At some point, the owner has to stop being the person who personally solves every problem and become the person who develops people capable of solving problems.

That requires a different mindset.

It means listening before judging.

It means asking questions instead of always giving orders.

It means learning how to provide constructive feedback.

It means holding employees accountable.

And sometimes, it means making difficult decisions about people who are no longer the right fit for the organization.

The goal isn’t to eliminate every difficult conversation.

The goal is to become the kind of leader who can handle difficult conversations productively.

When contractors make that shift, they can create teams that are more capable, more accountable, and more aligned with the business they’re trying to build.

Because ultimately, the growth of a contracting company isn’t just about how much work the owner can personally handle.

It’s about how effectively the owner can build and lead a team that can grow with the business.

Listen to the Full Episode

Want to hear the full conversation about leadership, communication, coaching, and building stronger teams?

Listen to The Leadership Shift That Builds Better Teams Without Constant Conflict featuring Paul Sanneman and Emma Collyer of Aspire Executive Coaching.

The full episode explores how contractors and business owners can improve communication, navigate difficult employee situations, develop their leadership style, and create stronger teams.

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